My 4 Solutions For “Why Some Members Don’t Respond”

Posted on February 5, 2009 by admin

One question that we have been hearing (both in emails and in the survey we took last month) is this:

“Why don’t some members respond to my emails?”

In other words, why do some people not respond when other members contact them on Law Of Attraction Singles?

This is a great question, and I am really pleased that you are asking it - it shows that we have some very active members.

You see, the answer to this question is much simpler than you probably realize. And I’d like to take it “head on”…

So here is the deal with “Why don’t some members respond” Question (and exactly how we plan on solving this problem once and for all):

KEY POINT #1: “No thank you”

Up until now, if you’ve contacted someone on the site who had a “Basic Membership”, that person received your message. But they may not want to upgrade at that time to respond to you.

We kept this rule in place for the integrity of the site. Because we felt that limiting site communications to “Premier Members” would guarantee that Law Of Attraction Singles never became a typical “one-night-stand” dating site.

And it has worked perfectly. Over the last 9 years, the site has never changed from my ideal vision of a “relationship site”…where people can easily and comfortably meet other like-minded singles and start a relationship together.

But this limit on communication has also been a double edged sword. Because many of our Premier Members have not received the responses they deserve from other singles that they contact on the site.

And that’s just not fair to our Premier Members.

In fact I’ve had many Premier Members on the site tell me that, receiving a simple “no thank you” is better than no response at all…because at least you know that your messages are being received. And that there really is a community of like-minded singles out there who are listening and responding.

So to answer this ‘Low Response Question’, here’s what we’ve decided to do:

When we finally reveal our Inner Circle Membership sometime next week, we’re going to start allowing each and every member on Law Of Attraction Singles - regardless of their membership status - to have a simple “No Thank You” button to use on each and every email that they receive from other members.

This means that when you contact another member who is interested, they can quickly and easily upgrade their membership…and contact you immediately. And if for whatever reason they may not be interested, they can politely send you a ‘No Thank You’ message that will let you know your email was received and read.

We feel that this solution is the best way for us to balance our two biggest priorities:
Maintaining the integrity of the site so that it stays a quality “relationship site” AND at the same time providing the most comprehensive service to all of our members - no matter what membership they have.

There are lots of reasons that someone may say “no thank you” – some of these could be: they are dating someone right now and should ‘hide’ their profile, they’re dealing with family issues, going through finals, only want redheads…you just never know what might be going on in someones life or in their head.

We hope you agree that receiving a “no thank you” is better than no response…and we are putting this up on a trial basis – because I really want to see what you all think of it.

The thing is in some cases, there’s more to ‘Low Responses’ than just the site functionality.

Which leads to another big point about the ‘Low Response’ question. One that I’ve heard from many members before…

KEY POINT #2: Your profile on the site is all that other members see of you.

Now, I know that this seems obvious. But there’s something below the surface here that’s very easy to overlook.

You see, no matter how much we try to deny it, men and women are not the same.

And what I mean by this is pretty simple: if your a man on Law Of Attraction Singles, the information that you choose to put on your profile may be interesting to you. But you need to ask yourself, “will it be interesting for her when she sees my profile?”

For example, you may put on your profile that one of your interests is watching NASCAR. And this is great. If NASCAR is really an important part of your life than by all means put it in your profile. But when your future soul mate comes to look at your profile - and decides whether she’s going to respond to your email, is this the information about you that is going to peak her interest and make her want to respond?

Or if you’re a women on Law Of Attraction Singles, and you like scrapbooking, is this what’s going to peak his interest and make him want to respond immediately?

Because the things that are important for men, are not always important for women. And vice versa.

And that’s OK.

See where I’m going with this?

And there’s more about your profile – do you have a nice photo of yourself? Are you warm and personable in your profile? Playful? Interesting? Interested? All of these will help your response rate.

In fact, I’ve dedicated a large section in Steps To Love - The Ultimate Law Of Attraction Relationship Course to this very subject. In this new course - only available as part of our new Inner Circle Membership - I’ve focused a whole section on helping you make sure that your profile on Law Of Attraction Singles not only represents the real you as best as possible…but that it also helps peak the interest of every single person that you choose to contact.

There are wonderful little secrets on how to present yourself in the best way possible and show off those inner qualities that will touch the heart of your special someone.

Now, there is another quick point I’d like to touch on concerning the ‘Low Response’ question. And it is this:

KEY POINT #3: How many members are you contacting?

If you write to the two or three people that are in your own town, and that’s it…. then you’re not giving yourself or your sweetheart a chance. Maybe you need to take a look at your commitment level.

Write to more people – see this as an opportunity to make friends around the world…you would not believe how amazingly interesting members there are on our site!

Again, I know that this seems obvious. And sure…we all hope to find that special someone living in the very same city as we do. But - with the whole world to choose from - the most likely place for your soul mate to be is probably not next door.

The thing is, even though every one of our members knows that this is true…I can’t tell you the number of times I have seen new members on the site upgrade their membership, get genuinely excited, carefully set up their new profile page, contact the two singles that live in the same city as they do…and then never contact anyone else.

These members are a bit disappointed when they don’t receive a response from the two singles that they contacted in their area. And I understand completely…I would be a bit disappointed too.

But think about it like this for just a second: If you go out with friends to bar or a restaurant on a Friday night…and you smile at only two people in that restaurant, what are the odds that one of those two people will turn into the love of your life?

Is it possible? Sure. Is it likely? Probably not.

Because you only smiled at TWO people.

Do you see where I’m going with this one?

Because if you’re going to receive responses from members that you contact on the site, you’re going to have to contact more than a few. And this is a good thing.

You might be surprised at all of the interesting Law Of Attraction Singles members who are closer to you than you realize…and that you’ve never given yourself an opportunity to meet.

And remember just because you making friends with like-minded people from around the world it doesn’t mean you have to move….your new friends or that magic ONE may want to live right where you are.

Key Point #4 – We’re cleaning house

One of the reasons members on the site may not be responding to you is….they’re not on the site anymore. So this is what we’re doing for you…every so often we go thru and clean up profiles that have been inactive and we’re doing that for all of our members now. So if you haven’t logged on to your account in a while please log in so that we don’t clean up YOUR profile. If you’re forgotten your username and password go here - http://tinyurl.com/aqs7o5

In the end, with our new improved site, your new improved profile, and a new approach to contacting other members, you will start receiving many many more responses from other members. And this will help you find your soul mate faster than you could have ever imagined possible.

BOTTOM LINE: Receiving responses from the people you contact on Law Of Attraction Singles is important. Because its one of these contacts that is probably going to end up being your soul mate for life.

And with the Inner Circle Membership that we’ve got on the way, I’m going to do everything in my power to make sure that this process happens faster than you could have ever imagined.

Oh, and one more thing. If you have any other questions left after reading this ‘No Response’ blog post…please let me know what they are by leaving me a comment below on the blog.

I’m absolutely swamped with preparations right now for the big Inner Circle Membership release day. But I’ll do my best to get you the response you need.

Blessings,

- Dawn